My little cousin just graudated from her college and he told me he would have offline date with his partner known in a BBW dating app and he asked me what he should pay attention to. I should say after using some curvy dating app for over one year, I have my own suggestions about the things we should or shouldn’t do before an offline meeting and hope these can work for him.
The first suggestion is not to ask too much privacy of your partner. Of course, you have right to know your partner’s basic information like name,age, gender,gender orientation. And also, her photo. You would better exchange your pictures before an offline meeting. At least, you should know what she looks like and she needed it, too. But don’t ask how may ex she had, her phone number or her address.
For example, I used to chat with a boy in a hookup app. Indeed, at the beginning, he and I didn't really know what topics we had in common. So he asked me some basic names, occupations. I didn't feel offended at first. But I started to feel a bit annoyedbecause he kept asking me questions. Before I could answer this one, he began to ask me the next. Ha ha, I feel like he's investigating my privacy.
The second tip is not to use a commanding tone saying you are bored with your partner and hope she would know what to say. Once, when I was chatting with a boy, I didn't dare to ask too much privacy. Then I said that I didn't know what to say. I just ask him if he wanted know anything about me. Then I probably used a little command tone. Yes, the boy never talked to me again.
Therefore, when you talk to your partner, especially boys talking to girls, don't use a commanding tone. Generally speaking, this kind of situation can only happen when your partner doesn’t like you so much because if someone really likes you, he/she will try to find topics and find common ground.
One more thing to remember before meeting is not to talk dirty to your hook up dating partner.
First of all, you don't know how much your partner can accept. If you speak so rashly, people think you are frivolous. Then, the date is likely to be cancelled. Secondly, generally speaking, we only make jokes with acquaintances, and we may feel very unnatural to joke with strangers. I once had a chat with a boy, the first few words are still good, he suddenly told me a yellow joke. To be honest, I was disgusted and even offended after he told this joke. Therefore, I think it is better not to tell pornographic stories before the first meeting and even in the first date. At least, we should make our dating partner think we respect them. Talking dirty is not a wise choice for all of us before first date.
These two tips are what I can give to my cousin and hope they can be also helpful for you.